I wanna share a story with you because it’s a story of perception and it’s real. Sometimes it’s extremely difficult for people to be real with themselves. People can tell you the truth all day BUT lie to themselves. It’s ok to lie to yourself, because it doesn’t hurt anyone but you and you are the one that’s hurting yourself, so self-mutilation is fine in today’s society. Carry on.
The story I wanna share with you is about Tina and Buddy. Tina and Buddy grew up together. Ever since he tripped her on the blacktop in 5th grade they have been cool. They didn’t necessarily hang around the same crew but they were very well aware of each other. When they both got in high school, Tina grew breasts and Buddy grew tall. When Tina looked at Buddy she saw a sparkle in his eye and she thought maybe she liked him. Junior year comes and Buddy asked Tina out. They are inseparable. Best couple ever. But, as they get older Buddy notices that Tina’s outfits are a bit risqué. He tries to explain to Tina how she should dress and represent him, but those conversations lead to arguments. Eventually Buddy breaks up with Tina.
Now in college, Buddy starts to date Trina. Trina reminds everyone, even Tina, of Tina. She’s a bit more abrasive but she’s definitely a nice young lady she just has one little problem. Trina is an extreme angry person. When she gets mad she gets extremely volatile and it scares Buddy, shakes him to the core. Somehow Tina and Buddy manage to cultivate a friendship and he sometimes confesses to Tina about his relationship. Trina notices the closeness of the relationship and forbids Buddy from seeing Tina. This lasts for 5 years. Through the course of this time, Buddy and Trina have gotten married and Trina has had two kids. Tina is still single, still beautiful and still lovely.
Tina receives an email one day from Buddy wishing to catch up. Tina is elated and begins to correspond with Buddy through emails. Through these emails, Tina learns that Buddy is in a unhappy marriage and his kids are beginning to resent him. Tina tries to give Buddy advice but ultimately tells him he has to do what makes him happy. Buddy apologizes for making such a small thing the end of their relationship. Tina questions why he tried so hard to make it work with Trina but not her, and Buddy let’s her know that he was just too young at the time to understand that he already met the girl of his dreams.
Needless to say, Buddy got out of his marriage and started his friendship back of with Tina. After about six months of building, Tina asked Buddy to marry her and they have been married going on 20yrs now.
LESSON: Every person is meant for a reason and a season. Just because you let someone go in the past doesn’t mean they weren’t always meant to be yours in the future. Sometimes the first time up for the drive you needed a learner’s permit.